Maybe I’m a bit late. Okay, I’m always late. If I had know that yesterday was National Sibling day, I would have written this post earlier. But…It’ll come around next year, right?
I’m one of seven children. Wow? Did your eyes pop out? Haha, I’m used to that reaction. Do you want to know a secret? Lately I’ve been wanting even more siblings. Why? Well, I love my siblings. They’re my best friends, and my work team. We work together, talk together, laugh together, and live together. Without my crowd of siblings, I’d be lost.
Since I love my siblings so much, does that mean we get along perfectly? Of course not! I’m often fighting with my little sister, or getting upset at my little brother. I even get annoyed with my older brother! (I’m second oldest.) But if you ask them for forgiveness for getting upset, it doesn’t matter in the long run.
What ticks you off about your siblings? For me, it could be my toddler sister scribbling on my laptop. Or my other sister cutting my doll’s hair without asking me. Or maybe it was as simple as my book going missing and I know one of my siblings took it. Didn’t my sister Rose say she wanted to read it?
How do we resolve what ticks us off? First, we must stop assuming it’s always their fault. One of the wisest things my mom tells me is, “Blame yourself.” Two words that are so hard to live out. How can I blame myself? It was their fault! Maybe because it takes two to argue.
Fine. I’ll just keep my mouth shut. I’ll let my anger bubble up inside. Don’t do that either. One sure way to injure your relationship with your sibling is to harbor anger. Before long, you get angry and start throwing around hurtful words. The longer you simmer on your anger, the angrier you will become. Trust me, I’ve tried it.
What if you have blown up? What if your sibling won’t look at you? What if they’re hurt…because of you?
My advice is the hardest, and yet must rewarding thing you can do. Humbly stand before them and tell them you’re wrong. Because you were. Whether they had provoked you to anger or not, you got angry and sinned.
In First Corinthains 13, Paul says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way;” Do you really love your sibling, if you’re looking at this verse? Are you patient and kind with your little brother? Do you strive to be respectful to your little sister? Do you always insist on your own way, or do you let your sibling pick their way?
Paul doesn’t stop there. What? He’s already given us enough to do! But, no, he keeps going. “It (love) is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.” How often do we snap at our siblings? Or are resentful because they can do something better than us. Do we ever rejoice when our brother finally makes the wrong choice? Mom will finally see he’s not the angel child!
We can’t do the things above in our own power. We need the power of the Spirit working within us. In our own strength, we will fail–miserably. But, Paul said in his next letter to the Corinthians, “for when I am weak, then am I strong.” Why? We are strong in Christ, for He is our strength and our song. Our hope, and our rock in the time of storm.
Without Christ, our life, our relationships, and our world would be hopeless. Thankfully, Christ came to earth to save you…and your relationship with your siblings. Stop now and pray that you will have the strength to do what is right. Go to your sibling, and ask them for forgiveness if you’ve wronged them. Start on a new slate. A good relationship with your siblings will pay off. I’m sure of it.