One day…Just that one day…What a wonderful day that will be.
I know of many people that dream about a certain day. Someday they’ll meet the perfect guy. The guy that makes them feel loved, the man that’s attractive to them, the man they want to live the rest of their life with, and then they’ll get married. On their wedding day they’ll wear the prettiest dress, and everyone will be so happy. And it will be wonderful.
And then the happily ever after comes in. They’ll adopt a child together…Or maybe they’ll serve in Africa together…Or maybe they’ll just live in a cozy cabin with their three perfect children.
But that isn’t what will happen.
Just because a guy (who’s a sinner too) hitches his life to yours doesn’t mean all your problems will disappear. In fact, even more will pop up. You have to make sure his clothes are ironed, and his food is prepared. You want the house to be clean, and the dishes washed. He has his problems that he wants your help with.
Life won’t be easier. And you aren’t making life easier for you now by dreaming about that time later in your life.
Expectations ruin relationships.
Yep. Someday you might meet a guy that might marry you, but if you expect him to be superman, or Prince Charming, you’re both in a fix. He won’t appreciate all your expectations, and you won’t appreciate his. You are both sinners, and once you’ve tied the knot, his sin will stick out even more than it has before.
Wait for the first year to wear off…Suddenly, he isn’t perfect any more.
But let’s talk about the present. When you’re dreaming about this man, you’re not keeping yourself pure. Your dreams are taking you and making you desire that love and affection. Soon, you’ll be in a pit you can’t pull yourself out of. You’ll be running away…Far away from your parents, your family, and your home.
Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
But I’m just dreaming about the dress. That’s pure, right? And definitely lovely.
What if you never get to wear that dress? What if you remain single all your days? Will you still love God? Will you still trust that he has what is best for you in his mind? Do all things really work for good for them that love God?
Of course all things work together for good for them that love God. Once they make it into heaven, everything is good. Everything. But are you making it to heaven? Do you believe Jesus Christ came down to earth, died on the cross, and came back to life. Maybe in this life, we will be bombarded with trials, sins, and sorrows, but once we pass over Jordan, none of that will matter. We’ll be with God…Forever.
Will that one perfect day matter then? What will you say to God when he asks you about all the seconds you wasted dreaming about that day? Each second costs something. We only have so many, and God will call an account of each of the seconds. What will you have spent them on?
~~Amie~~
AMIE ANNE 
Wow, Amie, well done! I really needed to hear something like this, thank you.
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You’re welcome!
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This is such an important thing to remember! Often times we get so sucked up in how “perfect” he is and just idolize him. I believe that every relationship should start off as friends, and that eventually if (after a lot of prayer and guidance) you decide to get married, that your relationship should always put God in the center!
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Yep! Always put God in the center. 🙂
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Wonderfully put!
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Thank you!
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I like the quote. *Expectations ruin relationships. *Did you hear it from S. M. Davis?
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Yes, we did! S.M. Davis is one of my family’s favorite preachers.
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We love S.M. Davis and his preaching about relationships! Great post, Amie!
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Thanks!
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Interesting you should write this as I was just saying something like this to a friend of mine.
Good post!
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Thanks.
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So true! That’s something I ask myself sometimes: “Would I still trust God if He decided that it would be best for me to be single?” And this time of singleness is not only good, but it’s BEST because God wants what’s best for his children. Perhaps you’re not quite ready yet and perhaps he isn’t. Perhaps there’s something He wants you or Him to accomplish before you’re married. I don’t want to get married and feel that I wasted so many years just because I wasn’t married. We need to be living our lives to the fullest!
Great post!
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I’m glad you enjoyed the post!
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This was a good post and reminder, Amie! It’s also especially hard if you have the expectations and dreams and then find out he isn’t the right guy. But yes, it’s a good question: would I still trust God’s plan if my dream of marriage never came true? I only hope He would give me the grace and the strength to do so.
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I’m glad you enjoyed it!
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Wow, this was really good! And exactly what I needed!
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I’m so glad it spoke to you!
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GREAT post, Amie!! Great post! Even though dreaming is not a bad thing, dreaming about the wrong things is! And that’s exactly what you said–thanks for the encouragement… ❤
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