Once upon a time, two girls named Woodstock and Ames were talking about different things that needed to be changed, which caused Ames to get this brilliant idea. The idea to collaborate on their blogs.
Most of you know Woodstock as Jo, from Pananaw (still can’t pronounce it, Jo’s uncle. Laugh all you want, okay?) and you know Ames as Amie, from Crazy A. Amie has been trying to convince Jo to collaborate with her for awhile. I mean…how can you be friends and not collaborate? But Jo has always been like, “Eh, keep business out of the relationship.”
okey, no. Jo hasn’t been like that, she just never knew what to collaborate about, and I never pursued collabing seriously.
ANYWAY. This post in a collaborative effort with Jo, and so if you want the first half of the conversation, you’re going to have to go to her blog, here.
It’s basically like sitting down to a more organized conversation between Jo and Amie. (Tho you should have seen the first draft of it. XD It was epic.) The topic of the conversation…was basically what we believe about women, femininity, and all that good stuff. So go read the beginning of the conversation, and come back for the end.
woodstock: precisely. okay. dresses and skirts. wear ‘em, trash ‘em, hate ‘em, what’s with them?
Ames: Personally, I honestly hate dresses and skirts. I don’t feel comfortable or safe in them, I feel as if I’m being held to an expectation I can’t keep, even if I strained every muscle and broke myself to try. I think it’s ridiculous that people believe earrings, nail polish, a tulle skirt, and high heels are what make you girly. I think it’s mind boggling that people will actually come up to you and state in a surprised tone that you look girly today, instead of tomboyish. Since when did basketball shorts and a t-shirt define whether you’re femimine or not? Since when did jeans and an oversized shirt become tomboyish? Women can be women in a ball gown and in a pair of overalls. You shouldn’t assume that someone that doesn’t like nail polish isn’t girly. FOR ALL YOU KNOW, SHE MIGHT HAVE SENSORY ISSUES. So yeah. Or if she’s not wearing jewelry, she might be allergic to metal, and she doesn’t have the money to buy gold. Please, don’t judge by appearances, and don’t let what people say to you keep you from being comfortable and expressing your style.
woodstock: thank. you. so, i have been called transgender for not wanting to wear skirts and dresses, and reading that is really validating. i think a big problem with christian culture in regards to sex and gender is that they make a big deal out of what’s girly and what’s manly, which isn’t even the point at all. you aren’t any less of a human for being and wearing clothes either/or. (unless you’re wearing socks with crocs because that is a cRiMe against humanity)
Ames: I agree. (Except the socks and crocs part, because I wear socks and flip flops, ‘cause sensory things. XD)
woodstock: (those aren’t crocs, they are allowed.)
Ames: (Maybe. I can’t wear crocs because sEnSoRy. WHO WANTS TO WEAR PLASTIC SHOES!? WHO? *coughs*)
Anyway, while talking about expectations and boxes people sometimes put us into, is it wrong to not want children, or have a maternal instinct?
woodstock: you tell me or we’re both sunk. XD i get this a lot from family and friends, and every time they don’t believe that. guess what world? i’m. not. interested. i am physically incapable of wanting to get married and have kids at this stage of my life. the sooner people start taking that seriously, the better. it’s not wrong to not want that life. God says to go forth and cultivate the earth, he doesn’t specifically say to get thee married and do le married things. there’s a bajillion things in the world to pursue, and there is nothing wrong with not wanting this one (1) thing. as for maternal instinct, that’s basically a caring trait present in both men and women, so that’s kindaaaaaaa implying that men are not capable of caring which is kinda pretty insensitive and also untrue. we have different ways of showing the same thing. that’s life. that’s good.
Ames: I agree about the maternal part, and I also get the former part from family so often. And they don’t believe me. Speaking to older and “wiser” people out there, when someone states they don’t want to get married or have children, please, don’t give them that smile and say, “Wait a few years, that’ll change.” It’s patronizing, to say the least. Some people don’t get married or have children, and that’s okay. It’s really okay. God has a different plan for everyone’s life, and just because you have enjoyed marriage and having kids, doesn’t mean everyone will. Also, it’s okay for you to change your mind on this matter. Just because you don’t want to get married and have kids at 15, doesn’t mean you won’t at 25. And that’s okay. It’s okay to mature, and age, and accomplish things, and then realize that you would like to marry and have kids. But don’t think that you’re insane and strange for having no desire for kids or marriage or dating at 15. It’s not strange, and honestly, you might have more sense than your friends. XD
woodstock: to be real, who in their right minds can think about marriage at this point, we have HOMEWORK. y’all be realistic for two seconds. and also, if i did want the love thing, i’d much rather discover that on my own terms at my own pace. XD
okay, so dating. dating means guys. what’s your take on how guys and girls interact, and do you think that culture has anything to do with it/should be changing what they do with it?
Ames: I have a hard time understand how guys and girls relate. Often from my friends, they’ll go somewhere, and then three out of the five guys at a place like them. At least, that’s what they think, and I’m like, how? How do you know that? So I think we all need to understand a few things. First off, how can a guy actually like you after a knowing you for only a week? They don’t know you. Not the real you. Might they be interested in getting to know you? Maybe. *pauses to search brain. Too much background noise* I have no idea how to continue. Jo, you take over. XD
woodstock: search me ames, i could literally not care less. XD like i said, i’m not interested in a love life, i would just love a buddy to rant about star wars or spam with memes, whether that’s a guy or a girl, if they can get me, i will be their loyal annoyance for life. and maybe we’re all overthinking it, y’know? just let things be. if it happens, when it happens, it’ll happen. but constantly thinking people are out here to crush on you and being scared of that just limits all the deep relationships you can build (and the memes you can spam. gotta think long term here people.)
Ames: *laughs* I agree. Girls over romanticize and just ruin a lot of meme spamming by jumping to conclusions, or viewing each dude as a potential suitor. (Do they even use the word suitor any more? Sorry, I’m stuck in the 1800s. XD) Just let be, and it’ll be. *starts singing*
Woodstock: *whispers also cause a lot of times guys think all girls are on the “market” and are waiting for them to show up and that ruins a lot of things too so be nice guys, we’re talking because you’re a fan of the mandalorian, not because i like you thank you*
ANYWAY. Last question. Jo, what would you like people to understand about womanhood and femininity and all that stuff?
woodstock: hmm… why did i get this question.
honestly, probably just that it is diverse and unique and i m p o r t a n t and should be respected as such. and also that despite popular opinion, so many issues stem from the fact that we aren’t respected or even seen. and probably also– nah, wait, that’s it. i’m done. *jumps off soapbox*
Ames: Hey! You can’t leave me on the soapbox alonnnnneeeee. I think we touched on most of the things I want people to understand. But to end it, I want to say that women are human beings. We were created in the image of God. That gives us a lot of freedom, but also a lot of responsibility. So use both wisely. *mic drop, hopes off the soapbox and hides before people start throwing moldy tomatoes*
woodstock: AND DON’T WEAR SOCKS WITH CROCSSS
Ames: *clamps a hand over Woodstock’s mouth* Shhh, let people make their own fashion statements. If crocs and socks float their boat *pauses as a light bulb poem moment appears* Uh, where was I? Oh yes, if crocs and socks float their boat, let them wear them. XD
woodstock: but ames it is a CRIME to the eyes it defies the laws of n a t u r e
Ames: *quietly* I kinda like the look of crocs and socks…it’s cool. In a clownish and unique kind of way.
woodstock: it’s just WRONG like pineapples on pizza and katniss and peeta and eating a kitkat before breaking it–
Ames: Well, now we all know how to annoy you, Jo. XD Thank you so much for doing this collaboration with me, and if YOU guys want to see more collabs with Jo and me, comment down below ordering Jo to do more of them. XD